How we grieve : relearning the world /
Thomas Attig.
- New York : Oxford University Press, 1996.
- xviii, 201 p. ; 25 cm.
Includes bibliographical references and index.
Stories of grieving: listening and responding -- Grieving is active: we need not be helpless -- Respecting individuals when they grieve -- Relearning the world -- Relearning our selves: grief and personal integrity -- Relearning our relationships with the deceased: grief, love, and separation.
What do we do when a friend, relative, or loved one dies? If we wish to understand the experience of loss, we must learn details of survivors' stories. In How We Grieve, Thomas Attig tells real-life tales to illustrate the poignant disruption of life and suffering that loss entails. He shows how through grieving we meet daunting challenges, make critical choices, and reshape our lives. These intimate treatments of coping hold valuable lessons that address the needs of grieving people and those who hope to support and comfort them. The accounts promote our understanding of grief itself, encourage respect for individuality and the uniqueness of loss experiences, show how to deal with helplessness in the face of "choiceless" events, and offer much priceless guidance for caregivers. Grieving is not a process of passively living through stages. Nor is it a clinical problem to be solved or managed by others. How We Grieve shows that grieving is an active, coping process of relearning how to be and act in a world where loss transforms the fabric of our lives. Loss challenges us to relearn things and places; relationships with others, including fellow survivors, the deceased, and even God; and most of all ourselves, including our daily life patterns and the meanings of our own life stories.